When I began navigating this new stage of my life, I came to realize I had all of these hidden beliefs. They were under the surface and I didn't talk about them to even my closest friends. These beliefs were slowing me down and tripping me up. It took me some time to understand what was going on inside myself. I needed to get out of my own way. I was my own worst enemy. My hidden beliefs were threatening my ability to move into this next stage of my life. This is one of the things that everyone needs to confront if they're going to design a second half that fills them with joy, fulfillment, and connection.
When I was on the cusp of becoming an empty nester, I started having intense fears. My life up until then was largely focused on mothering my children. I felt a crisis of confidence in who I was and what I would do next. The voices in my head were overwhelming. I learned that getting out of my head space and into a more intuitive place within my body ~ some call it their gut ~ helped me to gain clarity about what I wanted for my next steps. There all all kinds of ways to do this but at the time, I wondered why no one in my circle was talking about this stuff. We would all benefit from a frank discussion about our fear and anxiety over changes in our family dynamic.
Even before this, I noticed that I became anxious and just felt bad when I spent too much time on social media. For me, it invited feelings of comparison and I never felt like I measured up. When I started changing my lifestyle, I had to be very careful not to compare myself and my new lifestyle to my friends. What makes our friends happy may not really make us happy. I had to be willing to let go of comparisons.
You can't be authentic and true to who you are if you're focused on what everyone else is doing. You are unique. Your dreams are only yours. They're buried deep down inside your heart because your life got busy with kids, work, spouses, homes, parents, and everything else. These dreams are waiting for expression. They're one of the things that make you uniquely you. So stop worrying about everyone else on social media and give voice to what's in your heart.
My friends weren't talking about this stuff ~ the hidden beliefs, the social comparisons, the drastic shift in life when you become an empty nester. But when I started talking about it, they wanted to join the conversation. So there you have it. Design Your Second Half ~ The Podcast is a conversation about gaining clarity about how to live the second half of your life with more intention, with more joy, fulfillment, and connection.
I want a vibrant glow that comes from the inside and shines outward. I want a lifestyle that's filled with connection to others where I'm serving to help people enrich their very existence. I want to discuss how your home should support your health, your wellness, your lifestyle. My goal is to start this conversation with you and other experts so that together we can mastermind this thing I'm calling our second half.I hope you're interested in joining me on this adventure.
Today we talked about 5 things nobody tells you about designing your second half.
1. Take baby steps and you can adjust along the way.
2. Rediscover your forgotten dreams. Life got busy and you didn't have to pursue them but rediscovering them will add energy to your life.
3. Confront your hidden beliefs that are getting in your way. They probably aren't true and they're slowing you down.
4. Getting out of the voices in your head and into an intuitive place within your body. Get your body moving. Take a walk in nature.
5. Be willing to let go of things that don't serve you well like social comparisons.
In the next podcast, I'll interview Katresha, co-owner of The Pearl Laguna, a wellness retreat center. She's a leader in the field of health and wellness and she's going to tell us how to find our outer glow. Be sure to subscribe now in the podcast app of your choice so you don't miss an upcoming episode.